Lovers and Friends, notes from the past...

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Friendship is supposed to be something that builds you up. Something that is supposed to bring out the best in you. It's a relationship based on trust, love and respect. True friends are treasures you find as you go along life. They are the select few upon which you are confident to entrust your very life with. And one very special kind of friend, you will make, a best friend. That person is someone you'd bare your soul to in a heartbeat. Someone who shares your deepest sorrow as though they were their own. Someone who'd stand by you despite whatever hardship batters you down. This is what a true friend is...What a best friend is...

Basically, they are a part of you no matter how much you try to exclude them. But then, where do you draw the line when they become more of a destructive force to you? When do you start to let go of that one person whom you shared those sweet and painful experiences of life? They become your enemies the moment they start to break you into pieces instead of keeping you together.

Love, how do you define this emotion exactly? Can love be defined in exact terms? Love, as it may appear to be, is a wonderful feeling two people share especially. But then what about how it feels when the love you offer is not reciprocated? The eerie truth behind the reality of the one-sided love affair. You fall, hopelessly and desperately in love with this one person who can never, not even learn, to love you back. You know it's doomed, you know that in the end you will only end up getting hurt. You know for a fact that you have no chance whatsoever, and still, you stay. Just there, in a distance, watching the person you so painfully love, that one person you would willingly take a bullet for, get hurt and taken for granted by someone else. And to think that you are dying to be that someone else.

And that person, the one you are helplessly in love with...just so happens to be your bestfriend.

The tragedy of the one-sided love story is no mystery to anyone. Everybody, even those who have never experienced it have an inkling, they all know how terribly excruciating it feels. Well, one hears about it quite generously in overrated tv shows, in songs, you read about them in books, media. You know how devastating it can feel. And now, how can you say, and I mean honestly say that such a feeling is conducive or constructive to building up oneself? Such a feeling so dark and depressing can only be classified as destructive. So powerful a force that slowly destroys every fiber of your being.

I found this in one of my past archives... Wow... I am amazed at how dark the aura of this particular piece is. But still, there is some truth to what it says. 

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